My friend who runs a non-profit believes that, “Whoever has the heart, has the greatest influence in a person’s life.” This makes a lot of sense too, because when Jesus was walking around here on earth, he majored in building relationships. He spent a lot of time on dusty roads with his disciples. While walking together, he would tell a story, then they would chat about what the story meant, and later, when stuff happened – like a big storm or the death of a friend - he used the experience to reiterate the idea he had taught them through the story. In this way, he grew their relationships while he trained and prepared his disciples for life after he left this earth.Read More
I love You, Eternal One, source of my power.
The Eternal is my rock, my fortress, and my salvation;
He is my True God, the stronghold in which I hide,
my strong shield, the horn that calls forth help, and my tall-walled tower.
I call out to the Eternal, who is worthy to be praised—
that’s how I will be rescued from my enemies. Psalms 18:1-3 (Voice)
As I write this, there are ONLY 15 days, 17 hours, 50 minutes, and 13, no 12, no 11, no…seconds until Christmas!
For some of you moms, the presents are all wrapped and neatly stacked under your perfectly decorated tree while your children eat homemade Christmas cookies with carols playing in the background.
And then, there are the rest of us . . . dashing around like Dancer and Prancer frantically trying to finish the to-do list and praying ordered of gifts arrive before Santa.Read More
Celebration and Sorrow. I’ve had those juxtapose emotions within me at the same time. I’ve celebrated one child while morning the situation of the other - all in the same breath. As a mom, you’ve probably experienced that for your sons and daughters too.
Maybe you have one child who is easy and the other regularly difficult; healthy versus sick; intelligent versus mentally challenged; successful versus going down the wrong path.
Abraham experienced those same two emotions at the same time too.
At Isaac’s big weaning celebration, Ishmael poked fun at Isaac and made Sarah very angry. Sarah demanded that Ishmael and Hagar be sent away. Abraham was heartbroken. (Genesis 21)Read More
The push and pull of the tide…birds chirping just before sunrise . . . roaring rivers created by the melting snow . . . regular rhythms put in motion by our creative God. He also initiated morning, noon and night, and summer, winter, spring and fall. Another rhythm that God ordained for us parents is to regularly share our hearts and faith with our children.Read More
God created the world with a regular rhythm, and the long days of summer is one of them. Sometimes I’m ready for bed long before the summer sun sets. However, if you are looking for connection points with your daughter or son, bedtime might just be the perfect time.Read More
God created the world with a regular rhythm: The tide of the ocean, the seasons, sunrise and sunset and high noon in-between. In the regular rhythm of life, find ways each day and each week to connect heartstrings with your child time over time over time.
The need to eat creates a great opportunity to invest in your relationship with your children.
I have wondered if God created us humans to eat so that we would pause, enjoy his bounty, and build community and heart connections.
When your children were babies, you are forced join them at each of the feedings – and there are lots of them. I think God did that to bind our hearts as parents to our new babies.
But when they become teenagers, catching them at meal time becomes a bit tougher. Soccer practices, dance rehearsals, taekwondo, play dates, and other scheduling conflicts make family mealtime seem like a thing of the past. Suddenly, we're feeding our pop tarts during the morning commute, sneaking 100-calorie packs for lunch, and grabbing dinner at the drive-thru window.
Research shows that dining together is more important than you might think. You’ve probably heard many of the stats: less likely to be overweight, perform better academically, and have a better relationship with their parents. But my all-time favorite is: “People think you are a better cook—and a better person—if you serve vegetables at dinner.” (Cornell University Food and Brand Lab)
Summer is a great time to gather around meals to invest in your relationships, and have the added bonus of being gaining a little veggie induced respect!
Include your family in coming up with fun ways to gather for summer meals.
Make a list of fun summer treats you can make together.
Share some summer kindness by taking ice cream or a homemade summer treat to a shut-in or a new family in town.
Absalom is known as one of the “bad boys” of the Bible, but we can tap into his story to use his skills for good.
Absalom was one of King David’s sons. The story of Absalom and King David is long and complex, but in short, the two had become estranged. As time passed, Absalom wanted to have some one-on-one time with his father, and even though Absalom was allowed to move close to King David, he was never invited to spend time with his father. As a result, Absalom decided if he couldn’t have his father’s heart, he would go for something very close to his father’s heart – the heart of the Israelite people.Read More
“Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.” ~ Mother Teresa
Moms, this Valentine’s Day we have the opportunity to teach our daughters (and our sons!) how to do a small thing with great love. I believe there is nothing greater that we can teach our children than to be empathic with those who are hurting and to become love in action.Read More
Zacharias was a priest and Elizabeth was his wife. He and Elizabeth were both known as people who loved and obeyed God. Other than that, they were just an ordinary couple. Well, ordinary except . . .Read More
Moms, have you taught your daughters the other four letter word?
Oh yeah, I said it! Don’t you get a little uptight when you hear that four letter word?Read More
There so much I don’t understand about God and how he works.
Take for instance mosquitos. I don’t see the need. I really despise them. I tell people I’m “OFF” for the rest of the world. If there is a group of people standing around and mosquitos show up, the group is safe with me there. They LOVE me – notice the capital letters.
And Chiggers. Really? My husband, Tom, and I went to bed the other night spotless, and awoke to multiple chigger bites.Read More
Life is about relationships. We earn and keep the right to speak into our children’s lives through a continuing flow of being intentional and present in their lives . . . time over time over time . . .
For all of my children’s young years, I invested in loving them . . . rocking them to sleep at night, reading them bedtime stories, saying their prayers with them.Read More