My Daughter is ALREADY Hormonal!

3 Steps to Deal with Stress

I've had many moms come up to me and say, "All of a sudden my daughter is hormonal!" Interpret this as, my daughter is edgy, grumpy, quick tempered . . . 

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Yes, for some hormones might be the culprit. But for many, it could be that your daughter is overwhelmed by new stresses in her life such as a new school, new friends, peer pressure, academic pressures.  In either case, I say, REJOICE! 

You may think that's an odd response, but let me explain.  By now, you know that life does have pressures and stress points.  Some stress  points can be so powerful they can take your breath away. This side of heaven, there will be troubles. (John 16:33) What a great opportunity to train your daughter how to walk through difficult circumstances and stressful situations in a healthy way.

3 P's to Deal with Stress

When stresses overwhelm, teach your daughter the "3 P's" to put her emotions in place and return to a place of peace.

  1. Pause.  Stress bleeds. Many times when we are stressed, everything seems terribly wrong. That's because stress  bleeds. Teach your daughter to take a moment and pause and evaluate what is really troubling her and allow her emotions to be quieted.
  2. Pray.  We have a wonderful Heavenly Father who has given us so many promises to be with us when troubles come. When my daddy was dying, the Father brought to mind, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." 2 Cor. 12:9.  I often ask the Father to be strong where I am weak.  Also, teach her to pray the Psalms. One of my favorites when I'm stressed is Psalms 34.  Here's how I use the Psalms to pray.
    1. Read it through once.
    2. Read it a second time and apply it to your situation.
    3. Read it through a third, fourth and fifth time praying the Psalm to the Father and applying it to your situation until you have shared your full heart with him.
  3. Peace. Jesus promised us, "My peace I leave with you." (John 14:7) It's our birthright as his child to walk in peace. When I was at a very stressed-filled place of life, I learned that "hope springs from the Eternal One.:"  Teach your daughter to be still and allow his peace and hope to return to her.


Training her in a Life Skill

There will be troubles in this life. An old family friend used to say, "Little people, little problems.  Big people, big problems."  Use this precious time while your daughter is at home to teach her to walk with our loving Father through troubles and stress.  It's one of the best ways that you can train her for life outside your "nest."  

Remember, we have a good, good Father who is always with us, and welcomes us to, "casting all your cares (all your anxieties, all your worries, and all your concerns, once and for all) on Him, for He cares about you (with deepest affection, and watches over you very carefully)". 1 Peter 5:7 (AMP)