My friend Teena Goble says, “Whoever has the heart has the position of greatest influence in a life.”
When we have the heart, the position of influence, we have the opportunity to continue to build, train, grow, speak, and “be” in strong relationship with our children – no matter the age.
Speaker and Author, Josh McDowell, states: “Unless parents develop an emotional attachment, a loving bond, or an intimate connection with their children, I don’t care what you do with the family, it will fail.”
In other words, we can create all kinds of fun for our children, but we must also be intentional about capturing their heart in the process.
Several years ago I asked my children for three ways I could invest in our relationship. I remember my son’s response clearly. “Time. Time. Time.” Funny, I thought all I did was invest with time! Nevertheless, I worked to carve out one-on-one time with him. It was what spoke to his heart.
The first step to maintaining influence with your child is to understand how they receive love. Make a date with your children, and ask them how you can invest in your relationship with them this summer. Once you hear the answer, think about ways to love them in ways they receive love and incorporate the other tools of time, listen/encouragement and touch to grow heart strings and create a loving bond with your children this summer.
Proverbs 4:23 tells us to, “Watch over your heart with all diligence, for from it flow the springs of life.” (NASB)