Time…over time…over time…
In the book, Playing for Keeps, Reggie Joiner and Kristen Ivy have a more visual way to help us parents to be intentional about investing in our children’s lives time over time over time again.
Reggie encourages parents to get a jar and put a marble in the jar for each week they have left with their child until high school graduation. If they are a newborn it would hold approximately 936 marbles. If they are 10 it would hold approximately 416 marbles. So the number of marbles in the jar would match the number of weeks parents have left with each child until graduation.
Then the parents were given a simple assignment.
Remove one marble each week.
Over time, the practice of losing marbles had a strange effect on these parents.
It reminded them to value their time.
It made each week matter a little more.
It reinforced a simple principle --- when you see how much time you have left, you tend to do more with the time you have now.
Some of you may be thinking… that’s a really stupid idea! My life is already pressure packed enough. The last thing I need is a visual to remind me that I’m running out of time with my kids!
Or, the visual may have the healthy upside that it helps you stay focused on the value of your relationships – a reminder for you that what you do together over time – really matters.
MY TIME IS LIMITED – SO I NEED TO LIMIT HOW I SPEND MY TIME. – Andy Stanley
Write down your children’s’ names and how much time you have left with each one of them.
What are a few things you want to do with them in the time you have left?
What can you do to tie one more heart string together and bind their heart to yours?